Using effective discipline with your 8-to-12 year old "tweenager" will encourage learning.
Several keys to successful discipline include being their parent, not their friend. They’re renting your emotional state and leadership. They don’t need another friend.
Make sure they know which behaviors are “radioactive” and the consequences if they choose to cross the line. Punishment is a bit trickier.
Carefully consider the consequences that’ll be most meaningful.
Don’t go overboard. Grounding them or taking away their digital devices for 2 days will give them a chance to learn and recover. If the punishment is excessive, they’ll be angrier at you than themselves.
Two days’ worth gives them a second chance to learn. They’re also likely to make the same mistakes over and over. They will get tired of doing that and behavioral changes will follow.
Maintain intimacy with family rituals.
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