This man, Bruno Bettelheim, wrote many articles and books on psychology and had an international reputation for his work on Sigmund Freud.
When I came upon a book he wrote, The Good Enough Parent, I bought it, but it took me several years to read it because I was still so ticked off at him for blaming mothers for causing autism. He said that autism was caused by "refrigerator mothers" who did not express warmth to their children. Ugh.
Yes, we can. But, as usual, it takes teeny tiny baby steps. Maybe the laundry is done, but we leave it in the dryer and pull out what we need for a day or so. Maybe we don't empty the dish washer instantly. Maybe we ask for some help. Accept how they fold the towels. Good enough is good enough. Maybe we have tomato soup and grilled cheese sandwiches for dinner...or pizza. Spend more time with them instead of "doing" things for them. Exhaustion should not be a status symbol.
Remember, the kids are watching. Do you want them to have the life you're living now? Teach them moderation. We can have it all; we just can't have it all perfectly all of the time.
Just do the best you can, Claudia