AFTER THE FUN STUFF AT THE BEGINNING, THERE'S A GREAT IDEA FOR SUMMER TRAVEL, THE INTROVERTED CHILD/ADULT AND HOLDING YOUR CHILD BACK A GRADE.
DON'T MISS A THING!
Fun things! It's spring. Bring on the bunnies!
Sad face...my nearest IKEA is 2 hours away. No flat pack bunnies for Dr. Claudia! WAAAHHHHH!!!!
The Toddler Target website is sold out, so they're referring buyers to amazon, so here it is! It's about $30.
It's not just for boy kids! The girls will find it entertaining, too.
As a Mom, the most challenging part of getting The Kid up and into the bathroom was turning on the light and making him even more awake. Ugh. You don't need a bathroom light with this product.
Hmmmm, wondering if it could be put to good use for the older guys.
This is the link to the article that has links for the robest, but here's the "mother lode" link to the "world of all things" that are pet-related on Etsy" Go crazy! There goes the budget.
This thing costs about $14.00 and may be worth it to you, so check it out here.
There are tons of options online.
However, for the purposes of the Momma who wrote in on DrClaudia.net's "Ask Me" button, we addressed the use of a sand time for her incredibly whiny 4-year old daughter.
Here's my approach...
1. Sit her down.
2. Explain to her that 4 year old kids do not whine, they talk.
3. Show her the difference in the sound of a whine and of talking.
4. Avoid accusing her of anything or mimic her in any way. It’s shaming and not instructive.
5. Help her to learn to talk instead of singing her language. My Mother called whining “talk singing”.
6. Keep your sentences short and have her repeat after you several times.
7. If she is able to repeat after you and speak correctly, you’ll know that the whining is behaviorally- and emotionally-based.
8. Let her know that when she whines, you’ll help her practice talking.
9. Then, you will turn a 2-minute sand clock timer upside down and she’s to return when the sand runs out and make her request.
10. While she waits, she is to practice.
11. Use a sand clock time which is like an hour glass. You can get them in 1, 2, 3 minutes…all ranges of time.
12. Now, the practice begins.
13. You MUST MUST MUST MUST be consistent or you’ll have to start over.
14. She will learn how to think before she speaks.
15. When she performs competently, say, “You sound like a 4-year old!”’
16. She’ll slip repeatedly, but continue to practice until she achieves mastery.
She’ll resort to whining when she’s tired or not feeling well. I know I do….
The bottom line is that there isn't much at all we can do for our kids' congestion and misery. A fever, yeah, but beyond that, there's not much. We can use a bulb syringe to get out some of the goo, but until they learn how to blow their noses competently, it's pretty much a waste of time. And, there are serious consequences for giving kids medications.
Soon enough, your little one will be able to manage their own goo, so wait it out. It's really tough to watch them suffer, but do your best not to make it worse.
Maybe she's the one who's dominated her sister all of her life, so she's just quiet around her. There were other factors, but I suggested that perhaps her sister is an introvert and asked her to check out this book.
If you have an introvert child or family member, the insight of this book will knock your socks off. It's actually a fun read, but then, again, I'm always up for learning something new.
I strongly believe that kids who are being considered for "retention" (failing a grade) should be evaluated, but it's getting a bit late in the year for schools to start assessments since they have 90 days to complete them. Believe me, I've worked in schools long enough to know that district personnel have that "drop dead date" circled on their calendars and are likely to make the recommendation for retention after that day. That leaves you in a lurch.
So, what happens? You might just get bullied or "worried" into retention.
Sometimes, kids are retained because they're "immature". I've never had an "immature" come into my practice who didn't have some kind of difficulty. And, what about holding immature kids back only to put them in a class with younger kids will make them more mature??? Really?
Kindergarten through 5th grade are the 6 most important academic years of a child's life. It's all about FUNDAMENTALS, FUNDAMENTALS, FUNDAMENTALS!!!
Those hot shots at the Jet Propulsion Laboratory are still using concepts they learned in elementary school, so don't underestimate the role of those early years in establishing solid academic and social-emotional foundations.
Here are links to critical information that will help you to make a decision. Remember, if you have a follow-up question, call me at 833-400-5050 or send me your comments here.
1. The Special Education Referral...how to get an assessment in the school setting.
2. The Special Education Assessment...it's pros and cons.
3. Holding your child back a grade.
4. The lifelong result of holding your child back a grade.
5. Learn more about 504 Plans here. This resource will help you to understand the differences between a Section 504 Plan (from the Rehabilitation Act) and Special Education. If your child cannot be evaluated before the end of the school year, ask for a Section 504 plan to address the issues. Services can begin immediately. In fact, ask for a 504 plan for interim services before special education begins if your child qualifies for it.
6. Consider engaging an educational therapist. Learn all there is to know about an educational therapist here. They are allowed to administer academic tests that will give you a better sense of how well your child's "functional" skills are developed.
When I say "functional skills", I am talking about those skills that are required in the classroom. If your child is in the 5th grade, their ability to recognize a wide variety of words (sight words), read with effective speed (reading fluency) and understand the material (reading comprehension) are functional skills that determine their success. They are no longer focusing on learning sight words which was important in K-2.
You simply CANNOT CANNOT CANNOT wait for the next school year to begin and there are about 2 months of school left, to get busy!
Just do your best.
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