We talked with a Momma about her concerns for her son in this age of "accusation=guilt". He's a good guy, but is still a teenager and she wants to know how to teach him to protect himself.
While I have two articles about this concept, specifically, on the show, I continued to "preach the word" about practicing to be an adult.
- Don't get drunk or even close. If you're impaired by drugs or alcohol, you can't remember accurately. You can be accused of anything and saying, "I don't know. I don't remember" is not an impressive defense. You can also make yourself vulnerable to the predators in our society.
- Don't date girls who drink.
- Don't go to "all-out drunken brawls" where anything goes and no one can remember what happened. The fatal hazing events at colleges have been these kinds of gatherings.
- You must be known by your ethics, respect, and values. Live what you believe. In that way, you are credible. You are more likely to be believed as someone who does not get drunk and harm others if you are never known to behave in this way.
Oh, you can still be accused and you and your family can go bankrupt defending yourself. If you conduct yourself honorably, the chances are less likely.
Two articles about teaching "refusal" skills are:
Houdini Would Be Jealous
Refusal Skills :How to Help Your Kid Escape Scary Situations
Today is National Coffee Day! Get your java on! Here's the article outlining some of the freebies or at least less expensive ways to try those flavors you've been dreaming to taste!
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