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There are times to indulge kids, to excuse their behavior because of their temperament, intelligence or age. There’s a time to rescue them and protect them.
But, when these times are too frequent and last too long, you’re creating a perpetual child instead of an adult.
They’ll never learn to take responsibility, have confidence, learn to cope or mature.
Tell them about your mistakes, how you learned to get up when you fell and what you learned from each time. Don’t excuse your children. Hold them accountable.
It may be painful now, but certainly less painful and less public than when they become adults.
Be brave, honest, integrous and practice what you preach. When they make mistakes, present them as teachable moments so they can learn without judgment.
Claudia
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But, when these times are too frequent and last too long, you’re creating a perpetual child instead of an adult.
They’ll never learn to take responsibility, have confidence, learn to cope or mature.
- We must let them fall down and teach them how to get up.
- We must encourage them, but not too much.
- We must teach them to take chances within their ability.
Tell them about your mistakes, how you learned to get up when you fell and what you learned from each time. Don’t excuse your children. Hold them accountable.
It may be painful now, but certainly less painful and less public than when they become adults.
Be brave, honest, integrous and practice what you preach. When they make mistakes, present them as teachable moments so they can learn without judgment.
Claudia
Join me on Facebook at Dr. Claudia McCulloch.
At DrClaudia.net, click on the "Ask Me" button and send me a question.
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