When I see boys in my practice who are at the 90%ile of height and weight, they often experience what I call the “Big Boy Syndrome”.
Parents, teachers, friends and others have expectations that are way beyond the maturity level of these boys. Size is mistaken for maturity.
This even happens in children who are not tall. We expect kids who are very bright to have judgment consistent with their “smarts”. Usually, this is not the case.
To be mature means that you are fully grown and fully developed. Just because some aspects of a child seem to be mature, does not mean that they have achieved maturity. Watch their behavior; check their judgment.
To be mature means:
Determine your own definition of maturity and help your child achieve it. Don’t be fooled by their size, intelligence or other talents.
Claudia
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Parents, teachers, friends and others have expectations that are way beyond the maturity level of these boys. Size is mistaken for maturity.
This even happens in children who are not tall. We expect kids who are very bright to have judgment consistent with their “smarts”. Usually, this is not the case.
To be mature means that you are fully grown and fully developed. Just because some aspects of a child seem to be mature, does not mean that they have achieved maturity. Watch their behavior; check their judgment.
To be mature means:
- They are willing to accept responsibility and constructive criticism.
- They benefit from their mistakes and improve their performance as they go along.
- They can cope with adversity.
Determine your own definition of maturity and help your child achieve it. Don’t be fooled by their size, intelligence or other talents.
Claudia
Join me on Facebook at Dr. Claudia McCulloch
Go to drclaudia.net and click on the "Ask Me" button and submit a question!
