“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.”
The struggle with revenge is many centuries old and is one of the deepest instincts we have.
It may be a form of establishing justice, a form of protection or serve as a kind of reinforcement of social cooperation.
If a neighbor’s guests block your driveway, you might think of scratching their car doors, but then you think about them “coming after you” and you just tolerate it.
We’ve seen acts of revenge including destroying cars, burning clothing on the front lawn and even running people down.
Revenge is about anger, hurt and power. Acts of revenge can make you feel better or worse.
When your children are treated unfairly and want to “get back” at the offender, understand these feelings are biologically based. Take their feelings into account and help them problem-solve the situation.
Know that it will take some time for those strong feelings to fade.
Claudia
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The struggle with revenge is many centuries old and is one of the deepest instincts we have.
It may be a form of establishing justice, a form of protection or serve as a kind of reinforcement of social cooperation.
If a neighbor’s guests block your driveway, you might think of scratching their car doors, but then you think about them “coming after you” and you just tolerate it.
We’ve seen acts of revenge including destroying cars, burning clothing on the front lawn and even running people down.
Revenge is about anger, hurt and power. Acts of revenge can make you feel better or worse.
When your children are treated unfairly and want to “get back” at the offender, understand these feelings are biologically based. Take their feelings into account and help them problem-solve the situation.
Know that it will take some time for those strong feelings to fade.
Claudia
Join me on Facebook at Dr. Claudia McCulloch.
At DrClaudia.net, click on the "Ask Me" button and send me a question.
Sign up for the Sunday newsletter. Don't miss a thing!
