As parents, we interrogate our kids daily. It leaves little room for having real conversations with them.
- Let Susie and Sam know that you’ll be asking for five minutes of their undivided attention every day to have a “chat”.
- Let them decide when it will happen.
- Be flexible, but always keep your agreement.
- Keep the time limit.
- Use a stop watch or a sand clock so your child can get a feel for the amount of time you’re spending.
From middle school on, they start to put up boundaries, so make it easy for them.
Consider these 5 questions.
- “What was the best part of your day?”
- “Who helped you or who did you help?”
- Who was nice to you?”
- “Anything happen to disappoint, frustrate, make you mad, you thought was unfair or unexpected?”
- “What can you do to make it better tomorrow?”
Once they know what to expect, they’ll start paying attention to the events in their day so they’ll have answers.
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