Yep, she's going to college. How did this happen so soon? Well, you were busy and time flies when you're busy. Science has told us this. Yes, you will survive...
Just remember this whole idea about necessary losses.
When Katie outgrew the crib, she moved into the “big girl bed”. Baby bottles gave way to forks, strollers gave way to walking. “Necessary losses” occur throughout life and signal growth.
How well your child adapts is related to how well you handle these changes. Their job is to grow, mature, and become independent. If you grieve over these events, your child will see these changes as frightening. They’ll become anxious and fail to meet the expectations for their age.
Losses are felt when a child starts school, refuses your help, prefer friends over family, drives a car and goes off to college. Don’t take this growth personally. Katie will eventually not need you to survive and this is the most poignant necessary loss of all. She’ll move away to become independent, self-sufficient and confident.
Recognize and adjust to these stages, feel your feelings, but show your confidence, encouragement and support. Let her know you trust her to “get out there”!
Just do the best you can. Celebrate! This is a good thing!
Claudia
Join me on Facebook at Dr. Claudia McCulloch
Just remember this whole idea about necessary losses.
When Katie outgrew the crib, she moved into the “big girl bed”. Baby bottles gave way to forks, strollers gave way to walking. “Necessary losses” occur throughout life and signal growth.
How well your child adapts is related to how well you handle these changes. Their job is to grow, mature, and become independent. If you grieve over these events, your child will see these changes as frightening. They’ll become anxious and fail to meet the expectations for their age.
Losses are felt when a child starts school, refuses your help, prefer friends over family, drives a car and goes off to college. Don’t take this growth personally. Katie will eventually not need you to survive and this is the most poignant necessary loss of all. She’ll move away to become independent, self-sufficient and confident.
Recognize and adjust to these stages, feel your feelings, but show your confidence, encouragement and support. Let her know you trust her to “get out there”!
Just do the best you can. Celebrate! This is a good thing!
Claudia
Join me on Facebook at Dr. Claudia McCulloch
