If your kids can’t come to you for the little things, why would they come to you for the big things in life?
We teach our kids to come to us by being R.A.N, Receptive, Approachable and Nonjudgmental.
Being receptive means you have time to really listen to them. You don’t act impatient when they approach you. Openly express that you’re available when they need you.
The approachable parent is one who acts as if their child is important, not an inconvenience. Their kid knows that, on most days, they rank in the top 3 of their parents’ attention and concern. These parents tell their kids the age-appropriate truth quickly and confidently. Their kids trust them.
Finally, these parents do not judge. They don’t minimize concerns or fears or tease their kids because of the questions they ask. Within the family, parents don’t make disparaging comments about others. Kids know they’re next if you act like this with others.
Keep your agreements to be there and be consistent. You and your kid will reap the rewards.
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