It’s an illusion to think that we heal.
We heal from wounds, but there’s always some kind of scar. What caused that scar on your hand? Was it a minor kitchen mishap or a violent assault? One is remembered, the other is not.
The media perpetuates this unrealistic goal of “healing” after a tragedy. Coverage of the 9-11 attacks led us to believe that life would go back to what it was because, isn’t that what healing means?
We do get on with life, not because of healing, but because we learn to cope with the events.
The “distance of time” puts things in perspective. The positives in life temper the pain and reshape our memory of the event.
We’re changed, of course, but the direction of that change is influenced by our coping skills. Get help.
Be inspired by those who have overcome. See a therapist or minister, go to a group to benefit from others. Don’t just stand there, do something!
Claudia
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We heal from wounds, but there’s always some kind of scar. What caused that scar on your hand? Was it a minor kitchen mishap or a violent assault? One is remembered, the other is not.
The media perpetuates this unrealistic goal of “healing” after a tragedy. Coverage of the 9-11 attacks led us to believe that life would go back to what it was because, isn’t that what healing means?
We do get on with life, not because of healing, but because we learn to cope with the events.
The “distance of time” puts things in perspective. The positives in life temper the pain and reshape our memory of the event.
We’re changed, of course, but the direction of that change is influenced by our coping skills. Get help.
Be inspired by those who have overcome. See a therapist or minister, go to a group to benefit from others. Don’t just stand there, do something!
Claudia
Join me on Facebook at Dr. Claudia McCulloch
At drclaudia.net, click on the "Ask Me" button to send me a question.
