When we're toddlers, people give us a "wide berth" to make mistakes and act in ways that would be unacceptable when we're older.
If he was screaming and flailing on the floor of the cereal aisle in the grocery store, you'd look at the Mom with your best, "Been there" look and move on. If he was 42 instead of 2, we'd be anxious and move away, really far away from him.
His world is getting bigger. There are more people in it.
Their world is getting bigger. They have more people in their world than before.
He's playing on formal and informal teams and works together with others toward a common goal. He works cooperatively within his family, accepting responsibilities and learning from his family.
His world is getting bigger. A lot bigger. He has a lot more people in his world now. We can have some fairly "hard and fast" expectations of him. He's headed to middle school.
We can have consistent expectations of them, but there's a lot of "back and forth". One day, they act rationally and responsibly and the next day, they're petulant, emotional and childish.
Just as when they were children, they're growing physically and their brains are on fire with the increased "connectivity" between the parts which can erupt, on any given day, in depression, anxiety, glee and overall, intense feelings.
Their worlds are much larger than when they were in middle school, but they're on the verge of being adults and their world is about to explode. Emotions are still intense, but are moderating. They're developing coping skills.
For most people, this is the time of life where their worlds are the largest, most diverse and gives them opportunity to continue to jump from one new event to another. It's the time when they can explore diverse experiences without "cost" to their spouses and children. They can think selfishly and become who they want to be.
It's an explosive time. But, they're still not fully formed and life-altering mistakes can still be made.
We're still learning, but our world tends to be more predictable and frankly, smaller because of our responsibilities to work and family.
Be mindful of your judgments. Are you making assumptions without evidence? Careful, you might be missing out on a great opportunity for a meaningful relationship if you rush it.
Hopefully, others will be aware that you're a PUC and still evolving. Hopefully, they'll give you a "wide berth".
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