When I explained Steve’s learning and behavioral problems to him, I focused on how his brain works.
In this way, he learned to think about his school challenges as not being related to “who” he is as a person, but rather to the way his brain works. It’s a “me” versus “my brain” mentality.
Separating neurology from the “sense of personhood” is a game changer.
Instead of seeing himself as “stupid”, he can “blame his brain” and understand that how his neurology keeps him from “showing what he knows”.
More importantly, he understands the steps he needs to take to turn in his best performance.
This “assignment” of blame and sense of control goes far to reduce anxiety which, in and of itself, will improve his attitude and grades.
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