I’ve done everything right, but it turned out wrong. Sound like a country song?
Looking back, I realize there were times when I just should’ve stopped and said, “Nope, this isn’t gonna work” and moved on, but I kept at it thinking I could change the situation.
Now, when “it” whatever “it” happens to be, isn’t working, I stand still for a bit and ask, “Is this one of those times?”
I ask myself tough questions.
Be careful about the assumptions you’re making. Stop. Ask yourself, “What do I think I know that I don’t really know?”
For example, “The kids are OK, maybe I should stay in this horrible marriage”. Really? You better ask them.
I’m not talking about the worthy life goals that take time and effort, except, of course, having $100,000 worth of student loans for an art history degree. Yes, work for it, but make sure the goal is emotionally and financially healthy.
Teach your kids these skills so there are fewer bumps in the road.
Claudia
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Looking back, I realize there were times when I just should’ve stopped and said, “Nope, this isn’t gonna work” and moved on, but I kept at it thinking I could change the situation.
Now, when “it” whatever “it” happens to be, isn’t working, I stand still for a bit and ask, “Is this one of those times?”
I ask myself tough questions.
- “Is this what I want?”
- “Will the result be worth it?”
- “What should I do differently?”
Be careful about the assumptions you’re making. Stop. Ask yourself, “What do I think I know that I don’t really know?”
For example, “The kids are OK, maybe I should stay in this horrible marriage”. Really? You better ask them.
I’m not talking about the worthy life goals that take time and effort, except, of course, having $100,000 worth of student loans for an art history degree. Yes, work for it, but make sure the goal is emotionally and financially healthy.
Teach your kids these skills so there are fewer bumps in the road.
Claudia
Join me on Facebook at Dr. Claudia McCulloch.
At DrClaudia.net, click on the "Ask Me" button and send me a question.
Sign up for the Sunday newsletter. Don't miss a thing!
