Are you still treating your teen like they’re in elementary school? Are you not shifting gears toward making them more self-sufficient and independent?
You can’t expect them to learn if you don’t back off and give them a chance to master the skills they’ll need for the rest of their lives.
While I can understand making their breakfast, it’s their job to get up in time to eat it. Get a pile of paperwork at the beginning of the school year? It’s their job to complete the items they can.
Do you regularly take forgotten materials to school? It’s OK if it’s once or twice a year or if they’re having a really bad time, but don’t make a habit of it.
Don’t call or email their teachers or coaches about mundane issues. If there’s a tragedy in the family, sure, contact them, but not about grades or getting enough playing time.
Teach your kids how to do their own laundry and make basic foods. Everyone needs to know how to scramble an egg.
Claudia
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