Men Behaving Badly
I talked about an article where many of the specific violations of the "key figures" in the sexual misconduct scandals are listed in a convenient chart. Some of the examples might be a guide for you to explain to your sons and daughters the types of situations they may encounter in life.
Just as with explaining to your young children about "stranger danger", you cannot anticipate every situation where they will know exactly what to do, so hitting the basics as frequently as possible is important.
It also might be helpful to give some sense of the lofty positions these men held/hold and how much they make.
Make sure they understand, as much as possible, that in the digital age, no one can hide.
- Teach them about developing trust in relationships and the number of times that trust will be challenged.
- Teach them that if there's even so much of a flash of "I don't think this is a good idea" or "Should I be doing this?", they should stop. Just stop. They can't live with the consequences.
- Teach them that if they hear their inner voice trying to talk themselves into something or someone, "STOP"! Step back, talk to someone who is both their age and older about developing judgment so they can learn "for the long haul".
- Teach them about the "dangerous" people. The young women who falls in love too quickly and becomes possessive. The young man who is "take charge" from the start. At the restaurant, he orders her food, is dominant with wait staff and focuses the conversation on himself. He's likely to become abusive.
- Teach them what you know.
Here's the article:
After Weinstein: A List of Men Accused of Sexual Misconduct and the Fallout for Each
Online Personality Tests
I got one of these last night on my Facebook newsfeed. It asked me to choose a duo of people from a grid of 4 pictures. It taunted me with "Find out what you need to know about yourself". Oh sure.
We get these "tests" daily. What does a color, number, flower, favorite food say about you??? Go to 16personalities.com to take a version of the Myers-Briggs Personality Inventory. A mother and daughter team first published it in 1943, but the mother, Katharine Briggs began studying personality types in 1917. Isabel Briggs Myers, the daughter, joined her and significantly expanded the research base.
I first took the test when I attended the University of Florida where incoming students were asked to complete it to learn more about themselves. The U of F is the repository of the research!
It's free, but it takes a bit of time. You have to think about yourself. Be honest to get the most accurate results.
How Does Anxiety Feel In Your Body?
I touched on the role of anxiety in response to a question that came through the "Ask Me" button on drclaudia.net. Reference this article to share "how" I explained it to many kids in my practice.
See you next Sunday!