It's time we have a brutal conversation with our daughters about being "prey". Want to listen to the conversation? Check out the podcast for Hour 1 of today's show.
I referenced that parents absolutely have to educate themselves so that they can deliver a reasoned and thoughtful presentation. I talked about the work of Gavin de Becker, a world renowned security expert and his two books. Buy them. Read them.
Yes, I know there are sensation stories in the book, The Gift of Fear, and if you want to skip over them, do so at your peril. You need to know how the predators think so you can put the ideas into a form that your daughters can hear.
Protecting the Gift helps parents to understand the ways to explain safety issues to their children.
Do it. And, you may have to have the conversation many times so that they "code" the information and so that their thinking about safety is as automatic as spelling their name.
It's a tremendous effort on the part of the Rails-to-trails Conservancy. Read all about it. Folks no longer have to take to the streets! They can ride on the "extensive pre-existing rail trail networks through 12 states".
I outlined some of the immediate needs which include creating an agreement, determining a salary with specifics about her duties and responsibilities and arranging for parents to pay employer taxes. It may seem daunting at first, but once established, it should be easy to maintain compliance.
Considering that 40 million Americans are primary caregivers for family and friends, there are resources that make it easy to comply with both the law and common sense.
Here are the resources I found that will help those in this situation:
I don't approve of lying about making the car disappear. I think that ruse creates confusion, anxiety and distrust.
I recommended that she talk with the personnel at her local "cop shop" about her concerns. Apparently, her father has a number of tickets and the staff can review his citations and hopefully, two officers can come and have a talk with him and let him know that they'll be recommending to the DMV that his license be revoked.
Having a personal conversation with authority figures will likely "seal the deal". If he blames his daughter for putting all of this in motion, she can reference the amount of tickets he's received and, obviously, his driving habits have caught up with him.
In anticipation of him losing his license, daughter needs to be prepared with a resource that will allow him to be independent and enjoy his life, otherwise, isolation and depression may set in.
Her local senior community will have resources. He's unlikely to use a smartphone competently, but there are ways around it such as the GoGoGrandparent system. Check it out.
The answer is "Yes", and research supports that answer. Apparently, there is a glitch in the dopamine receptors of those with allergies and ADHD. Since dopamine is a critical part of the reward system and has a strong role in motivation, it's a culprit in ADHD.
Stimulant medication helps to stimulate the release of dopamine in the ADHD brain which is why there is an increase in motivation. Those with ADHD are deficient in motivation.
I also recommended that Momma talk with the pediatrician about using the NeilMed Sinus Rinse (not a neti pot product) to reduce the misery index and brain fog that interferes with education. I also recommended that she talk with the doctor about alternatives to Benadryl which can impact memory functioning if used over the long haul. Consulting with an allergist is critical in these situations.
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