He described that most of his employees have been with him since the beginning and are like family, so he wanted to understand the "why" behind the "what".
He was shocked to learn that many employees were missing work to attend meetings at their kids' schools. The whole process revealed what he called "massive malfeasance" on the part of their local school district in terms of managing learning, behavioral and emotional problems in the classroom.
I referred him to several blog posts to describe the essence of the problem and the steps that can be taken to minimize the impact on his company.
With what I've seen in both schools and private practice, I am shocked that more companies haven't uncovered this problem.
Here are the blog posts I referred Denver to:
You don't know what you don't know, Part 1: The Special Education Referral
You don't know what you don't know, Part 2: The Special Education Assessment: Testing Your Child for Learning Disabilities. What School Testing Can't and Won't Tell You.
If I Robbed a 7-11: Your tax dollars and special education attorneys
Council of Parent Attorneys and Advocates, Inc.
Acoustic shockwave has been used extensively to treat kidney stones. The shockwaves break them up and help them to become small enough to be removed through urination.
Acoustic shockwaves are now being used to treat fractures that aren't healing and to treat chronic pain.
It is thought that the shockwaves increase blood flow and is being used to treat ED. Since it's a non-invasive process, it's much more appealing than other treatments and if cleared by his doctor, Fred should consider it.
However, ED is very much a "mind game", as well, which is why I talked to him about "sensate focus". This process was discovered by Masters & Johnson and is a very smart approach. (Click on the blue font to be taken directly to a link that describes the process in detail.)
The focus is about foreplay and sexual pleasure without intercourse to reintroduce "play" with modified expectations of penetrative sex.
Fred needs to understand that "everything" won't bounce back without some training. If he jumps to the conclusion that he can leave treatment and engage in intercourse, he's going to be very disappointed and become anxious and depressed about the future of his intimate life.
Be smart. At the start, be restrained if you want a fulfilling sex life, Fred.
The terrifying fact is that you can't, but you can have a lot of conversations with her about her new stage in life.
"This is the stage where I hand off the baton to you and you don't drop it. I've been there, protecting you, having your back since before you were born, and now, you've got to take over the job."
In the discussion, I described the specifics of what to teach her. I also noted two books that help you, Momma, to understand the mind of a predator so you can start "safety education" long before she goes to college.
These books are by Gavin de Becker, famed security expert.
The Gift of Fear
Protecting the Gift
I reviewed the dynamics with her and referred her to the work of Dr. Brene Brown whose professional focus has been on shame and guilt.
There's no doubt about it, Jordan has to confess and work to repair the ruptured relationships. She shared that she's in her 50's. Clearly, she has a lot of life left to live and sure can't live it this way.
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