We use too many words when we talk with our kids.
They have short attention spans and want you to get down to the meat of the message. Do it.
Work on directing them less and reflecting more.
Talk with them and not to them.
Talk with them in such a way as to get them to look at themselves and how others see them.
These skills will last a lifetime. That’s our goal, isn’t it?
To create healthy, satisfied and well-adjusted adults.
That doesn’t happen overnight. It’s time to shift the responsibility to the kids, but you have to give it up first.
Read the article called, “You’re All Talk. Your Tuned Out Kids” at DrClaudia.net for examples of this concept.
You’ll learn ways to reflect their behavior back to them, the words and phrases to avoid, and ways to negotiate and resolve differences.
Give yourself some time to change your verbal habits with your kids. The kids will need time to adjust to your new approach. Remember, practice does make perfect.
Claudia
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